Falling into the life lull of tranquility and safety is intoxicating. Throughout human history, and the history of just about everything living and breathing, survival has been key. If we didn’t survive as a species or individually, nothing would quite matter. In our daily lives today, if we are lucky enough to achieve a reliable state of being, then other life things hopefully will come into play.
These other life things are hard to recognize or even be aware of at times. They matter tremendously though and take a bit of deliberate thought and inner soul search to discover them. Having awareness is quite challenging due to the intoxicating impact of life safety. After all, if we’re safe, why rock the boat?
How do we evolve from a place of safety to a state of exquisite happiness? For starters, we need to identify and pursue our inner dreams and longings which represent our soul selves. What is our mission or purpose? Who are we? How do we want to feel? How do we want to contribute to the world? Are we happy in our current lives?
For many, when these other things are ignored, we can carry a lot of hurt, anger, rage, shame, guilt, depression, anxiety, etc. inside. We may have a safe lifestyle, but living hurts. One way to deal with these difficult feeling states is to eat, temporarily covering up how we feel. Over time, as many of us know, overeating and binge eating can take place causing our bodies to grow and suffer.
People are convinced the most important way to transform their body from larger to average size is through dieting and exercising. While I agree eating more nourishing meals with pleasure is preferable to chronic junk food consumption, this is only one piece to this multi-faceted situation. I quite frankly suggest we start addressing body re-shaping by going well beyond skin deep.
If you could have your life EXACTLY the way you would like, would it be different than your current one now? If yes, how? Would you/your:
•Primary relationship have different dynamics
•Housing be different
•Location of where you live be elsewhere
•Relationships with specific people or in general change
•Pursue new or old interests/hobbies
•Require feeling more secure financially.
If you answer yes to any of the above, the next question is, how would those things to be different? How would you want them to be? Be as specific as possible. How would things be in your life which would reflect the real, inner you? Finally, what can you do to effect change in the life areas you would like? Again, be as specific as possible. Consider short-term objectives, long-term goals and plans of action for either.
You may find addressing areas in your life that are causing discontent is actually the very first step to start to achieving you. And, achieving you and inner contentment will go a very long way to healing your relationship with yourself, food, eating and your body.